Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Older Men Younger Women Dating Pros

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Dating people your own age is old news! Women are dating guys 15-25 years older than them more than ever these days. I mean look at Jay-z and Beyonce for crying out loud or even Kylie and Tyga (okay maybe I took it too far!). And yes, I am guilty of it. I have dated older men in my past, and I’d have to say it is quite a different experience than dating in your own age group. As if relationships don’t already come with their own set of ups and downs, if you’ve ever dated someone 10 years or more older than you, you probably experienced some of the best and worst times of your life with that person. I guess it’s truly all about whatever floats your boat, but there are some benefits and downfalls to it either way.

1.Stability
Seems like the most logical reason to date an older man, right? Most people assume you are dating an older man ONLY for that reason. The fact of the matter is most older men have their “ish” together! But that doesn’t mean that every young lady who likes an older gent is a gold digger. In fact, there are studies that suggest differently. Accoring to the University of Dundee in Scotland, “as women become more financially independent, their taste may skew toward older (and better-looking) men.” Most women love the thought of stability. Being with a man that is well off or just more financially responsible is comforting, especially when you are planning out your future.

2.No more Games
There is nothing worse than having to play the dating games that you do in your teens and 20s. Thankfully most older men don’t have the patience for this either. Say goodbye to ever having to wonder if you text your guy back too fast, which of course in turn makes you look  desperate…right!? Truth is he is probably just annoyed by the idea of jumping through those hoops as you are. Even better, most older men are done with the mind games. They know what they want and you don’t have to guess to figure it out. No more wondering four months into your “situation” if this is going anywhere!

3.Confidence ' ON FLEER'
You ever go out knowing you look good, just to feel like nobody is trying to approach you? Well simply put, younger guys are easily intimidated by a beautiful, classy woman. Young guys are still building up their tough skin for rejection, so they are less likely to try and approach you, and if they do and you turn them down, they are even more less likely to try again. An older man has more experience with this. He doesn’t sweat the rejection, and in many cases he likes the challenge of trying to win you over and change your mind

4. Knowlege
I cannot tell you enough how refreshing it can be to date a man who can actually teach you a thing or two, who can guide you in the right direction, who can bring you back to reality when you are spinning out of control. Dating older men is just like that. They can be your tour guide through the parts of life you have yet to see. I often have felt when I date men in my age group that I am the one leading the way. I end up feeling like a mother instead of a girlfriend. It’s nice to be able to take a position in the other seat every now and then.

5. Kiss Jealousy Goodbye
You know that confidence I was just talking about? Well it helps out a lot in the relationship as well. A grown mature man respects that you have a life outside of your relationship, and not only is comfortable with it, supports it. No more feeling bad about wanting to hangout with your girlfriends. No more feeling uneasy about spending time with your family without him. Things are just easier when you have someone who understands that you aren’t attached at the hip now that you’ve agreed to a commitment.

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Younger Women Dating Older Men is a good thing

older-man-fantasy-800pxWhen a young woman is romantically involved with an older man, one might assume he’s her “sugar daddy,” or that one or both are getting something out of the relationship other than love. We make those assumptions because we equate age with power or money, but that’s not often the reason for a May-December relationship.
Younger women prefer to date older men for many reason, “The truth of the matter is that older men come with maturity, grace and dignity. They value their younger mates and treat them with more respect.” And this, of couse, is appealing to young women who have grown tired of the narcissistic adolescence frequently found in younger men.
In addition, older men typically possess more confidence. They’ve reached the age where they place a high value on things like love and family, and are generally more focused on things that truly matter.
“This maturity is not tied to financial success — it comes from simply being at a secure place in their lives from having lived in the world longer,” adds Hokemeyer.
There’s also a biological aspect. Women are very intuitive: They know what they value, what they need, and are typically gifted at obtaining these things.
“A younger woman who is mature for her age may want children, so biologically, it makes sense to go after a man who has the means and resources to provide for her and for those children。
The relationship that a young woman had with her father, while growing up, could also impact her relationship choices later in life. And yes, it’s sometimes true that a woman who didn’t get the love and support she craved from her father will instead seek it out from a mate, but only sometimes.
“Father absence, due to death or divorce, in early adolescence can contribute to certain behavioral problems, but the cliché that young girls seek a father figure when they date older men has more to do with them mirroring their mother’s behavior than replacing the father they lost,” says Lawrence.
“Some women feel that their fathers were exceptional and provided them with everything they needed,” adds Hokemeyer. “Therefore, they seek out mates who share the very qualities they valued in their fathers.”
Whatever reason a woman has for choosing an older man, the most important thing is that she’s happy. For both sexes, knowing what you want in a relationship (and sorting out how to get it) is generally a sign of success, and an indicator of emotional health.
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10 Reasons Younger Women Looking for Older Men

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There are certain things which definitely get better with age. Wine is one of them, men, another.
Fortunately, for the majority of men, a grey hair here, a love handle there, simply adds to their sliver fox appeal.
But when it comes to relationships, people often consider mixed-age relationships to be bad news, that people who are within a similar age bracket have a higher likelihood of maintaining a successful relationship.
However, this isn’t always the case. From old-school manners to life experience, here’s 10 reasons why older men better for younger women.
1. They’re hot
The salt and pepper hair, the laughter lines, the old-school style … where younger men are trying to recreate the ‘grandad chic’ of cardigans and cords your older boyfriend is doing it without thinking and it looks hot.
Eat your heart out hipsters.
2. They’ve been there and done it
There is a lot to be said for discovering new things together in a relationship, however, when it comes to experience and stories, what beats a man who’s got a few under his belt already.
3. You have different interests
And wouldn’t life be boring if we all liked the same things.
Instead of seeing it as an obstacle, having different interests will mean your relationship is always fresh and interesting.
Jeffrey Archer novels and Neil Diamond concerts? Who knew they could be so fun!
4. They’re financially sorted
Of course not all older men (or women) are financially sorted, but the chances are, the more years notched up on a person, the more established their career will be.
You might not be looking for a ‘sugardaddie’ but dating a man who is on, at least, an equal financial footing, is always going to make a relationship more balanced.
Put another way, your older boyfriend is unlikely to be tapping you for a fiver for a taxi after a night out.
5. Manners
Older men hold doors open, buy the first round and make sure you get home OK.
To some, a bit old-fashioned, to others – refreshingly well-mannered.
6. They’re not good with technology
Having skipped generation ‘screen time’, instead of endless texts littered with emoticons you’ll get a phone call and a real live date, even if they met you on the ‘inter-web’.
7. They’re a social media free zone
Your older boyfriend doesn’t get Facebook and can’t understand why people want to look at pictures of avocados, which will save you hours of wasted stalking time if you ever broke up.
8. Sex is amazing
Whilst sex might not last quite as long as it would do with a younger man, when it comes to experience, older men know where it’s at.
And like to go to sleep afterwards … roll on the zeds.
9. They won’t want to go clubbing until six in the morning
But won’t give you a hard time when you do once in a while either, as they understand the importance of personal space.
10. There’s mutual appreciation
Because regardless of your age, when you’re on the arm of an older man you’re *always* a hot young thing.
And dang, do they know it.
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